This is my translation version of रीति कि कुरीति?
For 21 years of my life, I have lived in one of the most beautiful South Asian Country, Nepal. Even though this country is beautiful naturally and has so many beautiful cultures and places, People and society of Nepal are being exploited by so many ill tradition for a long time now. I often see so many of this ill traditions around, but most of the time stay quite because fighting with people who don’t try to understand what you’re explaining is not worth it. I have mentioned all the feelings and all of my questions down here. You all might be able to relate to some. Do read and give me your honest reviews!
I read somewhere a long time time ago, that there’s not even a single event about discrimination and caste system mentioned in the Vedas of Hindu Religion. Slowly caste and hierarchy started forming on the basis of the work people did, and then the rich people and the clever ones started forming hierarchy and that started discrimination among the caste and religions.
Due to lack of enough knowledge I actually cannot surely say whether the discrimination started from the time of Manusmriti or from the time when Jayasthiti Malla, A Nepali King, classified the caste on the basis of work. But, the classification that was done on the past for the easy working environment and equal working opportunities has been changed dramatically and transformed into something very different. So, Is it still necessary to hold on to those ill traditions that has changed completely and is used to dominate others now? Is it still necessary to stick onto those tradition that drags us away from humanity?
Firstly, let us talk about the biggest problem that exists in our society till the date. This is simply the Caste/ Religion Discrimination. For a long time now, people in our society are engaging in Intercaste/religion marriage. But, after the marriage, a family is torn into so many pieces that cannot be brought together at all. Even the parents themselves end their relationship with their children just because they got married to someone outside their caste and their religion.
From our early childhood, we were taught about humanity, we were taught that all religion, caste, race are same and equal and we all share the same red blood in our veins. But, even those teachers who taught us about it, will flee away when it comes to accept this fact in their family. I have seen so many teachers no more in contact with their child just because of Intercaste Marriages. People tend to get mad when they hear about other’s good deeds, but when they find about their Intercaste Marriage and relationship in a society, it is dragged forever and it spreads quicker than the wildfire. Even those families who accept these kind of relation are not accepted in the society, people tend to not even drink a drop of water from those families. And mostly Honor Killing is so common in our society just because of this discrimination. People even today tend to kill their own children and their partner just because they feel being defamed due to those marriages. The society that has taught us that fame and Respect is much more important than our own child has already taken away our happiness from life, still no one is aware about it.
Even when the child is friend with someone from so called lower caste some of the families tend to disrespect that person and treat them differently than the rest.
I barely have anything to say to those people who are pretending to save our culture by killing the humanity around them. The only thing I want them to know is this habit of ours is dragging our society to the path of destruction and I won’t be surprised if this will lead to some major accidents in future. Maybe we need to stop this and contribute to control this issue before it slips out of our hand.
Now, let us talk about another major issue of our country. We live in such a society where the success of other people hurts us more than our failure. Where failure of other people makes us happy more than our own success. Where we keep on talking about others, talk behind their back and later conclude our speech with ” We don’t care about others, We don’t care about whatever they do”. Where we are more interested in what’s happening in others life more than what’s happening in our own and we feel proud and happy to share about others whereabouts and gossip about them. This habit of spreading rumors about others have destroyed so many houses in the Nepalese society, internal war is going on within the families and we can see a single family torn into pieces just because if this.” I dont like talking about others and I wont talk about them” people end their story about someone from birth till now with the sentence above. I don’t know when the people of our society will learn to not care about others personal things and live the life of their own.
We have those sorts of people in our society who will happily abandon their daughter to be with their son. People blindly choose son over daughters even till the date. There are people who always make women feel weak and vulnerable just by saying that men dont cry because crying is for women.
If we start digging up, so many of these ill traditions can be found in our society that has been exploiting so many generations now. We need to think twice before doing anything , wearing anything. We must think about what society will say before wearing the clothes of our choice. I don’t know under all these restrictions to new changes how will the people be innovative, how will new changes and innovation begin? How will we find the ray of hope amongst this darkness! People easily believe some random things rather than scientifically proven ideologies. In our society a Human is brought up to be a human later, before they must fill in the criteria of Race, caste, ethnicity, and then if some place exists then humanity is given a little. What exactly can we expect from a society like this?
If we look back at time, from the period when all these traditions started and the journey till now, all the traditions that were created with pure heart and good thinking has been changed into ill traditions for a long time now. People have that tendency to change the traditions and their values according to their accessibility. None of the tradition are created with bad intentions, even if we turn the pages of history and look back, every one of them have their own logical explanation but now, people have changed and damaged it’s essence completely. People have started being more and more proud and selfish and that has given them the complete freedom to change the traditions the way they want.
Where Today’s youth are trying to change the illness behind these traditions, they are ready to fight against those people who are affecting the traditions negatively, there they are given the threat of society, and are tied up with the question “What will the society say?”, Even families don’t support our act of changing these ill traditions. Is society really looking forward to some mass movements against these changes to bring everything back to normal now, Is really another movement required to break the walls of ill traditions and bring our original values back in those traditions?
Note: While translating I wasn’t able to completely translate the Nepali sentences in English. There might be many mistakes. Will keep on improving. Correction suggestions will be appreciated.
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